Not my daughter!

There’s a video making its way across Facebook in which the a father tells his daughter she will not date, he will break her boyfriend’s legs, and that she will become a nun. The girl in the video is about 3 years old. Am I the only person who sees a video, blog post, or comment like this and doesn’t find it funny?  A father making broad, sweeping statements to his barely-able-to-dress-herself daughter is hardly a new story. I think it’s time we put this on in the vault. We are reinforcing age-old stereotypes of dads who control their daughter’s lives. Dads who have all the power when it comes to those that she’ll befriend, date and possibly marry. Let me be clear. Involved fathers who care for their daughter’s safety and wellbeing are responsible, involved, loving. Their hearts are in the right place. But I have to ask why we don’t see this same kind of overzealousness regarding raising sons to be polite, well-mannered, respectful men. Why do we find it ok to remove freedoms from our daughters instead of putting reasonable boundaries on our sons? We’re addressing the symptom instead of the problem, and possibly even proliferating the problem. Women – please don’t try to make a decision for yourself – you need the approval of a man!

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